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Paula Says:
February 17th, 2011 at 9:54 am
I think the Friend Zone is a different place for men and women, because I think that men and women typically perceive friendships of the opposite sex differently.
I agree with DMN that both sexes lie when they know the other person is more attracted than they are. But I think women do a better job of trying to maintain an actual friendship when they say they just want to be friends, and often make some effort to help the guy friend find someone else (whether out of guilt or a more nurturing nature).
I also think that some of what Chuckrock described in the previous post is going on, where there’s just enough attraction there that the guy wants to keep the door open, knowing that the woman will accept keeping the guy in her life as a friend, if she perceives some chance that later it’ll become more. It’s easy to perceive the territorial behavior that arises as jealousy, but it’s probably not.
While it’s possible for straight men and straight women to be friends, I think the term is often misused when people don’t want to be honest with each other about their attraction or lack of it. There are many different kinds of friendships, but the term shouldn’t be used to refer to a person that is essentially in a parking lot while you sort out your feelings.
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WO7 Says:
February 17th, 2011 at 12:04 pm
This is both true and untrue. If I am head over heels for a girl, then I will not care if the “friendship” gets ruined. I will pursue the relationship.
Eight Don’ts of Dating
eHarmony Falls Flat
Dreams About the Person You Love
DOs and DON'Ts for Facebook Romance
Eight Tips for Living Together to Keep You Staying Together
The Elevated Perspective on Dating: Tips for Tall Women
How to Know You Are Not His Girlfriend
Paula Says:
February 17th, 2011 at 9:54 am
I think the Friend Zone is a different place for men and women, because I think that men and women typically perceive friendships of the opposite sex differently.
I agree with DMN that both sexes lie when they know the other person is more attracted than they are. But I think women do a better job of trying to maintain an actual friendship when they say they just want to be friends, and often make some effort to help the guy friend find someone else (whether out of guilt or a more nurturing nature).
I also think that some of what Chuckrock described in the previous post is going on, where there’s just enough attraction there that the guy wants to keep the door open, knowing that the woman will accept keeping the guy in her life as a friend, if she perceives some chance that later it’ll become more. It’s easy to perceive the territorial behavior that arises as jealousy, but it’s probably not.
While it’s possible for straight men and straight women to be friends, I think the term is often misused when people don’t want to be honest with each other about their attraction or lack of it. There are many different kinds of friendships, but the term shouldn’t be used to refer to a person that is essentially in a parking lot while you sort out your feelings.
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WO7 Says:
February 17th, 2011 at 12:04 pm
This is both true and untrue. If I am head over heels for a girl, then I will not care if the “friendship” gets ruined. I will pursue the relationship.