When Is "For Better or Worse" Not Really True in Marriage?
Divorce Changes Everything You Thought You Knew About Love and Dating
Your Boyfriend Is Not Going to Marry You
Things I Learned About Myself, Post-Divorce
The Ashley Madison Hack Made Me Rethink My Marriage
My 30-Second Secret to a Happy Marriage
10 Ways My Husband and I Are Just Like an Old Married Couple
14 Lessons from Wives Who Think That Marriage Is "Easy"
Compatibility: The Real Key to Happily Ever After
My 5 Biggest Fears as a Divorced Parent
9 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship After You Have Reproduced
Confession: I Am Not Attracted to Attractive Men
Apparently "Wife Bonuses" Are a Thing Now
Stop Lying to Your Husband About the Little Things
Reinventing Myself in My Ex-Husband's World
What I've Learned About Dating as a Middle-Aged Mom of Six
lol she’s DYING to be a part of the fun. This is actually a really socially awkward thing for her to do, cut a fun thread to go back to an old one lol but you know through your whoooole story she was thinking “ummm umm I wanna ask my question!! I hope he likes my question!!” like a kid waving their hand around in the classroom hoping the teacher will acknowledge them.
This question also marks passing the Hook Point with the group.
“At this point, I act as though that’s a really interesting distinction and take the opportunity to sit down across from them.”
Good, once you sit down you look like you’re a part of their group instead of like “a guy hitting on them”. You don’t have to acknowledge what you’re doing or anything, just sit down like it’s the most natural thing in the world. Like, of course you’d sit down, it would be strange for someone to call you out on that.
Notice that BECAUSE you’re past the Hook Point, it’s okay to sit down. Before the Hook Point, they wonder when you’re going to leave so you need the False Time Constraint. But because you passed the Hook Point, now they hope you don’t leave, so sitting down is welcome.
“Now, I just instinctively start to focus on the 5.5, because I dunno…I read Ya’s comment about the other ‘STFU girl’ and was like ‘try to ingratiate yourself a little to the obstacle.’ So, I spend time talking with her about stuff and actually kind of cooling it with the 7.”
Solid play. Very very solid group theory here. Well done!
Now the catch is that if you focus on the 5.5 TOO much, the 7 will go “My 5.5 friend NEVER gets a cool guy like this, I’ll back off and leave them alone so they can hook up” and then you’re fucked lol. But you avoid that doom perfectly with:
Divorce Changes Everything You Thought You Knew About Love and Dating
Your Boyfriend Is Not Going to Marry You
Things I Learned About Myself, Post-Divorce
The Ashley Madison Hack Made Me Rethink My Marriage
My 30-Second Secret to a Happy Marriage
10 Ways My Husband and I Are Just Like an Old Married Couple
14 Lessons from Wives Who Think That Marriage Is "Easy"
Compatibility: The Real Key to Happily Ever After
My 5 Biggest Fears as a Divorced Parent
9 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship After You Have Reproduced
Confession: I Am Not Attracted to Attractive Men
Apparently "Wife Bonuses" Are a Thing Now
Stop Lying to Your Husband About the Little Things
Reinventing Myself in My Ex-Husband's World
What I've Learned About Dating as a Middle-Aged Mom of Six
lol she’s DYING to be a part of the fun. This is actually a really socially awkward thing for her to do, cut a fun thread to go back to an old one lol but you know through your whoooole story she was thinking “ummm umm I wanna ask my question!! I hope he likes my question!!” like a kid waving their hand around in the classroom hoping the teacher will acknowledge them.
This question also marks passing the Hook Point with the group.
“At this point, I act as though that’s a really interesting distinction and take the opportunity to sit down across from them.”
Good, once you sit down you look like you’re a part of their group instead of like “a guy hitting on them”. You don’t have to acknowledge what you’re doing or anything, just sit down like it’s the most natural thing in the world. Like, of course you’d sit down, it would be strange for someone to call you out on that.
Notice that BECAUSE you’re past the Hook Point, it’s okay to sit down. Before the Hook Point, they wonder when you’re going to leave so you need the False Time Constraint. But because you passed the Hook Point, now they hope you don’t leave, so sitting down is welcome.
“Now, I just instinctively start to focus on the 5.5, because I dunno…I read Ya’s comment about the other ‘STFU girl’ and was like ‘try to ingratiate yourself a little to the obstacle.’ So, I spend time talking with her about stuff and actually kind of cooling it with the 7.”
Solid play. Very very solid group theory here. Well done!
Now the catch is that if you focus on the 5.5 TOO much, the 7 will go “My 5.5 friend NEVER gets a cool guy like this, I’ll back off and leave them alone so they can hook up” and then you’re fucked lol. But you avoid that doom perfectly with: