Don’t Look Down
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
At this point the problem is you’re not showing your Intent. You figure this out later which is good, but basically the vibe for her is still a little bit too far into “friend to friend” VS “man to woman”. You’re having a “cool conversation” but it’s not progressing forward in terms of the sarge. She won’t progress it forward generally, you need to lead it.
That’s why I say you had that really great opportunity with the fears question, but you pulled it back into attraction so now you’re stuck talking about the Beatles instead of being able to drop back into C2 by bringing up “Your friend said you’re afraid of moving on…did you break up recently?” and then transitioning into C3. You’re sort of stuck in A3/C1 now.
“I managed to kino a little with her (incidental, just putting my hand on her arm when lightly teasing).”
With kino, a general note to remember is to do it assertively, not hesitantly. Don’t acknowledge it, don’t look where you’re touching, just do it like it’s the most natural thing in the world to you.
See now if you were able to drop back into C2 and start transitioning to C3, that’s where you could literally just sit beside her and put your arm around her (if the seating allows it lol, you can pull her chair closer to yours if you’re in separate individual seats, it’s a pretty boss move to just reach under her seat and yank her chair closer to yours and put your arm aroud her). And then you’re basically a couple, sharing a deep connection, when in reality you’re in a bar and just met an hour ago.
But being trapped in A3/C1, that kind of kino feels more awkward.
“Probably the best thing I did — again much props to Ya — was roleplay.”
Happy to help and glad you’re listening lol Makes it worth writing these up for ya. :)
Dating (My Ex-Husband) After Divorce
Post-divorce life is turning out to be very interesting
To Avoid a Broken Heart, Do Not Love
My Last Days as Someone’s Wife
On Taking the Easy Way Out
When Your Soon-to-Be Ex Is Your Soul Mate
Scorched Earth
First Rule of a Positive Divorce
5 Things That Changed My Divorce
If You Love Someone, Set Them Free. And Other Lies
The Last Divorce Writer Rides Again
May Divorce Be With You
Next Time You See Me, I’ll Be Laughing at Divorce
Even Though We're Divorcing, I Want You to Be Happy (And Other B.S. Tales)
At this point the problem is you’re not showing your Intent. You figure this out later which is good, but basically the vibe for her is still a little bit too far into “friend to friend” VS “man to woman”. You’re having a “cool conversation” but it’s not progressing forward in terms of the sarge. She won’t progress it forward generally, you need to lead it.
That’s why I say you had that really great opportunity with the fears question, but you pulled it back into attraction so now you’re stuck talking about the Beatles instead of being able to drop back into C2 by bringing up “Your friend said you’re afraid of moving on…did you break up recently?” and then transitioning into C3. You’re sort of stuck in A3/C1 now.
“I managed to kino a little with her (incidental, just putting my hand on her arm when lightly teasing).”
With kino, a general note to remember is to do it assertively, not hesitantly. Don’t acknowledge it, don’t look where you’re touching, just do it like it’s the most natural thing in the world to you.
See now if you were able to drop back into C2 and start transitioning to C3, that’s where you could literally just sit beside her and put your arm around her (if the seating allows it lol, you can pull her chair closer to yours if you’re in separate individual seats, it’s a pretty boss move to just reach under her seat and yank her chair closer to yours and put your arm aroud her). And then you’re basically a couple, sharing a deep connection, when in reality you’re in a bar and just met an hour ago.
But being trapped in A3/C1, that kind of kino feels more awkward.
“Probably the best thing I did — again much props to Ya — was roleplay.”
Happy to help and glad you’re listening lol Makes it worth writing these up for ya. :)