When Is "For Better or Worse" Not Really True in Marriage?
Divorce Changes Everything You Thought You Knew About Love and Dating
Your Boyfriend Is Not Going to Marry You
Things I Learned About Myself, Post-Divorce
The Ashley Madison Hack Made Me Rethink My Marriage
My 30-Second Secret to a Happy Marriage
10 Ways My Husband and I Are Just Like an Old Married Couple
14 Lessons from Wives Who Think That Marriage Is "Easy"
Compatibility: The Real Key to Happily Ever After
My 5 Biggest Fears as a Divorced Parent
9 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship After You Have Reproduced
Confession: I Am Not Attracted to Attractive Men
Apparently "Wife Bonuses" Are a Thing Now
Stop Lying to Your Husband About the Little Things
Reinventing Myself in My Ex-Husband's World
What I've Learned About Dating as a Middle-Aged Mom of Six
“I find him at the bar, drinking another drink. He’s like ‘go open those four girls’ and I’m like ‘yeah, those are the ones I already opened.’ He laughs…’hmph, well there aren’t any other good groups to open here.’ So I’m like ‘then let’s get to gettin’.’”
lol I think he’s out of state here. Same thing as you when you were wandering around “looking lost” the other week. It’s hard to claw back into state and you start distracting yourself with drinks or wanting to leave or getting buddies to approach instead etc. If I can tell my buddy’s falling out of it like that I’ll usually try to help pump him up or embarrass myself with him to get him laughing and shake him out of his head or if we have to, venue change. It’s VERY hard to turn around from a state nosedive without doing something drastic. One of the RSD instructors squirts lime juice in his students’ eyes to shake their senses out of a negative state…I don’t recommend that lol
“So we go upstairs, and immediately my friend opens this 8.”
solid. If he WAS feeling out of state, the venue change is like re-rolling your D&D stats lol, it might not help but often resetting like that can change the night entirely and jumpstart you again.
“Now, I feel like a tool, and I immediately turn around to head back downstairs.”
One open I like in these situs is to grab a set nearby and go “Hey, my friend is being taken advantage of by a girl over there so I’m all by myself, alone and scared and I figured I’d say hi…take pity on me!!” and then go into riffing about people going home together from the bar and relationships and all that shit.
“On the way, I spot a 5.5 and a 7 sitting down. The thought was — shit, if I could get a 9 to laugh, surely I could do something with these chicks.”
:) That’s Reference Experiences in action. THAT’S why I encourage guys to go out instead of Keyboard Jockeying. You need to build those little successes where your brain says “shit if I was able to do THAT, I can obviously do THIS”.
Divorce Changes Everything You Thought You Knew About Love and Dating
Your Boyfriend Is Not Going to Marry You
Things I Learned About Myself, Post-Divorce
The Ashley Madison Hack Made Me Rethink My Marriage
My 30-Second Secret to a Happy Marriage
10 Ways My Husband and I Are Just Like an Old Married Couple
14 Lessons from Wives Who Think That Marriage Is "Easy"
Compatibility: The Real Key to Happily Ever After
My 5 Biggest Fears as a Divorced Parent
9 Ways to Spice Up Your Relationship After You Have Reproduced
Confession: I Am Not Attracted to Attractive Men
Apparently "Wife Bonuses" Are a Thing Now
Stop Lying to Your Husband About the Little Things
Reinventing Myself in My Ex-Husband's World
What I've Learned About Dating as a Middle-Aged Mom of Six
“I find him at the bar, drinking another drink. He’s like ‘go open those four girls’ and I’m like ‘yeah, those are the ones I already opened.’ He laughs…’hmph, well there aren’t any other good groups to open here.’ So I’m like ‘then let’s get to gettin’.’”
lol I think he’s out of state here. Same thing as you when you were wandering around “looking lost” the other week. It’s hard to claw back into state and you start distracting yourself with drinks or wanting to leave or getting buddies to approach instead etc. If I can tell my buddy’s falling out of it like that I’ll usually try to help pump him up or embarrass myself with him to get him laughing and shake him out of his head or if we have to, venue change. It’s VERY hard to turn around from a state nosedive without doing something drastic. One of the RSD instructors squirts lime juice in his students’ eyes to shake their senses out of a negative state…I don’t recommend that lol
“So we go upstairs, and immediately my friend opens this 8.”
solid. If he WAS feeling out of state, the venue change is like re-rolling your D&D stats lol, it might not help but often resetting like that can change the night entirely and jumpstart you again.
“Now, I feel like a tool, and I immediately turn around to head back downstairs.”
One open I like in these situs is to grab a set nearby and go “Hey, my friend is being taken advantage of by a girl over there so I’m all by myself, alone and scared and I figured I’d say hi…take pity on me!!” and then go into riffing about people going home together from the bar and relationships and all that shit.
“On the way, I spot a 5.5 and a 7 sitting down. The thought was — shit, if I could get a 9 to laugh, surely I could do something with these chicks.”
:) That’s Reference Experiences in action. THAT’S why I encourage guys to go out instead of Keyboard Jockeying. You need to build those little successes where your brain says “shit if I was able to do THAT, I can obviously do THIS”.